If they have a family typically they will see you in a different light if you don't have a family or if you don't go to their church and so on.
Your mouth has to be the same shape, same size, same ear shape, same nose size, and your tone of voice has to be exactly the same before anyone will fully agree with you.
While it may sound ridiculous -- What am I really saying here? People only see things from their own perspective.
In math there are less arguments because there is a standard. One cannot argue that 2+2 = 4.
But!!!----when adding other variables to an argument----that has no set standards----everything you say can be taken completely out-of-context. You may mistakenly use the wrong adjective and not realize it.
Even if someone acts like they agree with you they may just be doing it to get along and be liked -- to be more popular but if your unpopular they will more likely walk on you. And hey why not -- nobody is going to care if they beat up an unpopular person in the corner!
While math is typically interpreted the same way by professors, what you say will be interpreted differently by everyone's ear.
Just remember there's no set standard to communicating with each other and what you say may not always be interpreted by what you're thinking and trying to communicate at the time.
If someone doesn't like you because of prejudiced reasons (race, culture, material status) then the likelihood of communicating with them is even more difficult. Prejudice people / those that have a dislike for you --- will therefor intentionally take what you say out-of-context. Predictable behavior patterns by those that prejudge others because of the car you drive, job you have, your education, where you live, your race, and how you live. Hell if you eat popcorn or rice and they hate popcorn or rice they already have a bias against you.
Then there's ego----a person has to be right or they may think you are making a hidden insult to them, so they take what you say out-of-context to be right and defend their own ego which they believe you are attacking----because of the mere reason a topic has been raised and they must defend their own ego.
When you move your lips you are generally telling someone something---people need to justify your words as either an attack on them or something beneficial as in a compliment. So if you are not complementing them it is usually seen as some type of attack to our frail human egos. The more knowledge you have, the more people will take what you say as a put down to them. Even if you are just trying to intelligently communicate.
We have a long ways to go as humans. The biggest hurdle is communicating and interpreting what people say without jumping to a conclusion.
The iceberg metaphor is often used to explain the psyche's parts in relation to one another.
Freud proposed three structures of the psyche or personality:
Id: The id is the unconscious reservoir of the libido, the psychic energy that fuels instincts and psychic processes. It is a selfish, childish, pleasure-oriented part of the personality with no ability to delay gratification.
Superego: The superego contains internalized societal and parental standards of "good" and "bad", "right" and "wrong" behavior. They include conscious appreciations of rules and regulations as well as those incorporated unconsciously.
Ego: The ego acts as a moderator between the pleasure sought by the id and the morals of the superego, seeking compromises to pacify both. It can be viewed as the individual's "sense of time and place".
Albert Einstein Quotes:
"Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence."
"The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once."
"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former."
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The psychiatrist George Eman Vaillant introduced a four-level classification of defence mechanisms:
Level I - pathological defences (psychotic denial, delusional projection)
Level II - immature defences (fantasy, projection, passive aggression, acting out)
Level III - neurotic defences (intellectualization, reaction formation, dissociation, displacement, repression)
Level IV - mature defences (humour, sublimation, suppression, altruism, anticipation)
